Monday, October 7, 2013

I had a weird dream last night.

I had a dream last night where I was at the Missionary Training Center.  I had just arrived and they were doing a tour of stuff nearby.  After this tour, there was kind of an obstacle course that I had to run.  During the tour and the obstacle course, I couldn't keep up with the missionaries.  I was just falling behind the whole time.

I wonder if this dream means anything?  That is, either prophetically or just as a reflection of my inner feelings.  It's probably a good reflection of my inner feelings.

Saturday, October 5, 2013

I served a mission.

I have felt inadequate for far too long about my mission.  I want to get my feelings down so I can get them in order.  I want people to be able to see the struggle that it was to get to the point where I would serve and how without that, I wouldn't have the desire to do more now.

I did not have the advantage of a two-parent home.  Even when he was alive, my father was almost never home.  There are very few memories of him that I possess that are positive.  Then he died and my family was left without a leader.  My mom had to take on both roles.  God never intended the family to be a one-parent deal.

Boys need fathers.  They just do.  And the death of a parent has a devastating effect on a child.  I became an angry, angry child.  I was more than just a handful and I'm sorry for it.  Had I a dad, I would be different today.  But I didn't, and as a result of my poor choices during my upbringing, I feel like a bad person sometimes.

I had to work for my testimony.  I didn't get to sit in Family Home Evening every Monday night with a father and a mother with a designated lesson, prayer, treat, and game.  Instead, I'd watch as my brother would refuse to come up for dinner, I was completely uninterested in a church lesson from the Ensign, and I just couldn't wait to get back downstairs to play videogames.

Friday, October 4, 2013

Sick, final, game, lonely

I've been sick all week and it sucks.  I should be nearly done with my illness, but I want to be done now.  I want to be done five days ago!

I had a final this week and being sick didn't help.  I scored below the class average on the multiple choice section.  One of the women in the class is super smart and she got the high score on the test.  I have to be honest: I am incredibly jealous of her and her husband.  I hate being jealous.  I just feel so inadequate in comparison to some people.  I know I shouldn't compare myself and blah blah blah, but I do.  I would really like to get past that.

I went to the BYU/USU game tonight, even though I'm sick. I really wish that USU had won.  BYU sucks.  I used to attend BYU and it was horrible.  I'm so glad I'm not there anymore.  I love Utah State.  I wish I had come here years ago.  Maybe I would have found the right woman by now.

I've been feeling lonely this week, and it's exacerbated by being ill.  My bishop told me to get into online dating.  I don't like that idea because online dating makes me feel like I'm being a desperate loser.  But at the same time, I don't think it's that bad.  I've done some browsing and it looks like there are some great women online.

I honestly wonder if my poor luck in dating is due to my weight.  Seriously.  I don't think that I can be an accurate judge of my appearance, so I genuinely wonder if I'm too fat.  I do feel especially fat this week (due in part to being sick - a high consumption of sugary beverages (orange juice) and a poor diet).  Last week when I weighed myself I thought I had lost five pounds, but I feel HUGE this week!  I wonder if I lost any weight at all!

I don't like how relationships are always on my mind.  I want to be happy as-is, and a good portion of the time I am.  But this week I feel lonely and unattractive.

I want to work on my self confidence.  I know that God loves me and I think that I'm a good man.  But let's be 100% honest with ourselves here: there's a reason why I haven't been able to find love.  I would like to find and eliminate that reason.   Those reasons.  I think that confidence is an issue and I also think that weight is an issue.